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Be Kind, Be Safe, Be Responsible And Make Good Choices

Barming Pre-School and Primary School

Be Kind, Be Safe, Be Responsible And Make Good Choices

Welcome to Term 4!
Welcome to Barming Pre-School and Primary School
We are a 2 form entry primary school on the outskirts of Maidstone. It is a co-educational school for children aged 2 to 11 years old. There are currently 416 children on roll.
A Message from the Headteacher
Barming Primary School has so much to offer. Everyone is welcome and children are encouraged to flourish and achieve their goals. Come and find out what we are all about!
Orchard Academy Trust
Barming Primary School is an Academy and is part of the Orchard Trust family of schools. The Trust currently consists of Allington Primary School and Barming Primary School.

Supporting Children with Undesirable Behaviour or Alleged Bullying

Understanding the Difference Between Undesirable Behaviour and Bullying: A Guide for Parents of Primary-Aged Children

 

Recognising the Distinction:

 

Undesirable Behaviour:

  1. Occasional Incidents:

    • Undesirable behaviour might be isolated incidents where a child exhibits inappropriate actions or language.
  2. Intent vs. Impact:

    • Often unintentional, undesirable behaviour may not have the primary goal of causing harm but may impact others negatively.
  3. Power Imbalance:

    • Typically, undesirable behaviour doesn't involve a significant power imbalance between children.

 

Bullying:

  1. Repetition and Pattern:

    • Bullying involves repeated incidents over time, creating a pattern of negative behaviour.
  2. Intent to Harm:

    • Bullying is characterised by intentional actions with the purpose of causing harm, either physically, emotionally, or socially.
  3. Power Imbalance:

    • A key element of bullying is an imbalance of power, where one child has more influence over another.

 

 

Signs of Undesirable Behaviour:

 

Behavioural Changes:

  • Sudden and isolated instances of inappropriate behaviour.
  • Lack of awareness about the impact of their actions on others.

 

Support:

  • Talk to your child about the consequences of their behaviour.
  • Teach empathy and help them understand the feelings of others.

 

 

Signs of Bullying:

 

Behavioural Changes:

  • Persistent emotional distress, fear, or anxiety.
  • Unexplained injuries or damage to personal belongings.

 

Support:

  • Maintain open communication with your child. Encourage them to share their experiences.
  • Report incidents to the school promptly and work collaboratively with teachers.

 

Supporting Your Child:

 

For Undesirable Behaviour:

 

  1. Teach and Reinforce Positive Behaviour:

    • Set clear expectations for behaviour.
    • Reinforce positive actions with praise and rewards.
  2. Model Appropriate Behaviour:

    • Children learn by example, so exhibit the behaviour you expect from them.

 

For Bullying:

  1. Listen and Validate:

    • Create a safe space for your child to express their feelings.
    • Validate their experiences and emotions.
  2. Report to School:

    • Inform the school about the bullying incidents promptly.
    • Work with teachers and staff to address the issue.
  3. Teach Resilience:

    • Equip your child with coping strategies to handle bullying situations.
    • Boost your child's self-esteem through positive reinforcement.
    • Encourage them to participate in activities they enjoy.
    • Encourage them to seek help from trusted adults.
  4. Educate Your Child:

    • Teach your child about different forms of bullying (physical, verbal, social and online).
    • Explain the importance of kindness and empathy.
    • Help your child develop assertiveness skills to express their feelings and set boundaries.
    • Encourage your child to seek help from a teacher or trusted adult if needed.
    • Provide guidance on resolving conflicts peacefully.
  5. Promote a Culture of Respect:

    • Model respectful behaviour at home and in school.
    • Reinforce the importance of treating others with kindness.
  6. Empower Your Child:

    • Teach your child to stand up for themselves and others in a safe and respectful manner.
    • Reinforce the idea that asking for help is a sign of strength.

 

NB: Remember there is always two sides to every story, so please ensure honest conversations with your children to see what part they have played.   Children learn through their actions, whether they are good or bad.   All children make mistakes and that's alright - it is what learning we take from this that is important.

     

    Conclusion:

    Understanding the difference between undesirable behaviour and bullying is crucial for effectively addressing these issues. By recognising the signs and providing appropriate support, parents can contribute to fostering a positive and respectful environment for their primary-aged children. If concerns persist, seek guidance from teachers, counsellors, or other support services.

    • Barming Pre-School and Primary School,
    • Belmont Close, Barming,
    • Maidstone, Kent,
    • ME16 9DY
    • 01622 726472
    • office@barming.kent.sch.uk
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